I expect to give up my career once he finishes his training and we start a family. You won't know this until you do it and that is really important information to get before a marriage contract. I guess if u believe an angel with a sword really did force Joseph Smith to marry those girls. You should be fine as long as you stick to the lines you have laid out. Most of us were suckled on that teat too. It is easier and more enjoyable for him to zone out in the world of sweat and toil much like his school and training and work than to get to know me. Make arrangements to send her to your cousins town and let your cousin know she will be visiting. It's a great idea to know where you stand so that you'll be prepared when this comes up in conversation. I ask myself that every day.
All that being said, no one can tell you what is right for you except Heavenly Father. There's a picture of the magic rock he found while digging a neighbor's well. Finding a person with whom your wavelength matches, and around whom you feel you can just be yourself, talk about anything, and not be worried about being judged, is not as easy as the romantic movies and TV soaps make it out to be. Joanna has written a good answer here. I think that if these two really care about each other that she should be told to take a moment and ask herself how she would feel if they break up over this and years later she finally researches her religion. A grandpa sense of humor and occasional clever line from an old movie go a long way. That's okay, but it means your not a match. You will always be 2nd. Yeah, I think we need to have that talk I've been putting off.
I would think that a comprise between you getting missionary discussions and her reading the CES letter would be even. Find things that will make good memories in years to come. Mormons defintely play by a different rule set. Not leaving 5 minutes early to drop you off - 15 minutes could get problematic, but five?. Just a woman who envies the good life of being a medical doctor's wife. This woman has already given two full years fully devoted to the institution without question.
Find things that will make good memories in years to come. We learn sooooooo much from each other. If he has to work late call a girlfriend or paint a picture.